Venus with company - in all her muddy glory!
This is a simple story, of relationship and partnership. I treasure my relationship with each of my horses and they know it.
We dress our horses when we’re expecting sustained rains over several hours at temps of 50 degrees and lower. Until recently, we have always dressed the herd of 8 drafts & 1 TB, in their coats and fly sheets, out in our large pastures at liberty. The herd is so accustomed to this practice, we rarely require halter and lead to dress them.
They’re fascinating. When one is disturbed about something, another will join them to give them confidence while we dress them. Everyone seems to understand and respect our need that they be calm, graze about slowly, and stay within sight. It’s a marvelous partnership that simply delights me.
Venus (17h, 1 ton Shire) is an expert at standing perfectly still at liberty to get dressed and undressed. She loves the praise and attention. She seems to say, “oh boy, it’s my turn”. She regally lowers her head into the neck of her coat, which is sewn shut because the chest buckles broke.
In her 10×12 feeding stall, Venus can sometimes be a very different horse. She doesn’t bite or kick. She just moderately circles when she’s upset. (This story’s event was important to our helping her change her circling behavior.) It’s not her action that is of concern, it’s her bottled up, power-packed energy that must be respected. Entering Venus’ large, energized presence, in such a small space requires alertness and creativity.
On this particular day, a storm was approaching and Venus was eager to get out of her stall. My daughter, Jocelyn and I discussed the fact that she would be totally happy and much safer to dress her out in the fields. My intuition said this was a perfect opportunity to help Venus practice standing quietly in a place she’s in a hurry to leave.
Jocelyn and I started by playing one of my favorite curiosity games, “come see”. Venus’ winter coat is stored in a rubber trash can in a corner of her stall. I set Nyla (4 year old poodle) down in the empty can. I controlled Nyla’s response to being trapped in the can with a giant horse nose sniffing down on her (she was surprisingly calm for only her 8th week with us!) by distracting her with scratches on her head and neck. Jocelyn was in charge of watching Venus’ behavior and intervening if necessary.
Our intention to disrupt Venus’ thought pattern was a success. She began to soften (lower her energy) and break up her circles – stopping every so many steps. She seemed to enjoy the game of “where’s Nyla – come see”. After only a minute or so, I handed Nyla to Jocelyn to hold. I walked over with the coat and told Venus it was time to get dressed.
I wanted this to be a good experience by working with Venus’ needs and refraining from demanding perfection. I made an agreement with her. As long as she was slow and careful and stopped when I asked, I would let her circle on my cue.
I was reveling in the challenge of getting her to be still and put her head through the coat’s neck. This is something she has to help me with, because her poll rests well over 6’ high. Even on my toes, I don’t have the height and coordination to hoist the heavy coat over her head. I am used to instant cooperation, so for her to take the additional seconds to quite down and oblige me was a long time.
Normally, I stand to the side to lift the coat over her head. But considering her strong desire to be released (lack of attention on me) and the awkward bundle of coat (a mere size 84), I was compelled to stand directly in front of her and capture both eyes. I was confident she would not step into me, but would turn away if she moved. In fact, Jocelyn and I do this direct approach when any of our horses are concerned about the coat going over their head. They seem to appreciate being able to focus on us while the coat is passing their eyes.
Venus thought for a moment and made her decision saying, “okay, I’ll try” and lowered her head into the neck. Here’s where I enjoyed taking advantage of our agreement. As soon as the coat was securely past her ears, I said “okay, walk”. She turned and slowly began her circle. The advantage to me was that she literally helped me lay the coat out on her body as she walked by. That was so much fun and convenient, for a fraction of a second, I entertained the thought of teaching all our horses to do this. However, this was swiftly shot down in favor of maintaining the practice of having them stand still. <G> By the time the coat was straight and I had the near leg strap in hand (in only a half circle‘s time), I asked her to stop. She instantly stopped and let me connect the strap.
There was still a feeling of some remaining agitated energy at this point. For that reason and to fulfill my part of our agreement, I told her to walk again and allowed a full circle.
Just a side note here: my top 2 rules are “It Depends“ and “Follow Your Intuition“. My next move is certainly not what I would do with just any horse in any random situation. However, I do practice this, in most situations, with all of my horses.
Jocelyn and I spend hours every week, observing our herd. We’re writing a book from a completely fresh view of stallion/herd management. Our 2 Stallions (half brothers, born on our farm) live safely and happily together within a herd of 2 geldings and 5 mares.
One of the ways our horses show their dominance to each other is by squeezing between each other and a stationary object. They force the other horse to step aside. For that reason, I also do this with them – most especially with the stallions. Of course, because I see myself as moving them over with my presence, I’m not ever in a position to be pinned. It’s a dominance game we play, in the spirit of fun, and they always move aside for me when I ask.
Understanding this, I intentionally stopped Venus while her side to be buckled was slightly pressed against her stall gate. I came from behind and asked her to move over and make room for me. She instantly stepped over and I clipped her other leg strap. It was clear at this point that she was becoming less concerned with getting out and more interested in what I was doing. It also helped that every time I attached a strap, I gave her a little scratch. She craves scratches like a treat. She was also tuning into my energy of love and delight.
At this point, her energy was dramatically lower and she didn‘t need to walk. I could also see there still wasn’t enough room for me to bend down to get her belly straps, so I gently touched her side and told her I needed more space. She calmly took another step over. I knew I had her mind completely when she calmly, lovingly sniffed my hair as I reached under her to get the belly straps and buckle them.
What joy! I quietly hugged and loved on her and praised her and told her to be proud of herself for being so cooperative.
As you can imagine, the next time I dressed her in her stall, went even better. She stood absolutely still the entire time – that is, until I nearly had the final buckle attached. When I saw her begin to shift to move, I simply said, “hold still – stand – I‘m almost done”. And, as expected, she stopped and waited for my “okay – walk”.
My pleasure in this event is in the taking an everyday “chore“, by some people’s view, and using it to expand upon a beautiful relationship.
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